Look at what you made me do! “You must address the trust issues you have “It’s your issue, not my problem; ‘It’s an injustice since everyone else is with me but you don’t’ task is far more crucial than that of you.’
How often do you encounter statements like this from friends or acquaintances that make you feel as if you’re not the only egg with a crazy hat that’s in there?
Have you ever had a relationship with people who have made you feel that you’re always in the wrong and that you’re always the one to blame for the things that go wrong, or the conduct of others within your immediate social professional or personal space?
Simply put, they are those who suffer from extraordinary amounts of Narcissistic Personality Disorder and are in urgent need of treatment.
Narcissism is a personality trait that is often not recognized until relationships with others are damaged beyond repair.
Narcissistic abuse victims are left with a plethora of anxiety, confusion, depression and self-doubt which impacts all aspects of their lives. It pushes them slowly toward a never-ending downward spiral.
Be prepared for the shock.
Below are 12 traits of a narcissist which will allow you to recognize a clinical narcissist far away. You can also set boundaries before being caught into their web.
Obsession With ‘I’
“I might have been the worst I could have been, however, I believe that I could have done better by having more understanding friends who understood my feelings and didn’t be so harsh about me for dressing in white at the wedding of a friend. If I’m better than the bridal party, then it’s their responsibility.
An in awe of ‘I’ and complete disregard for the opinions of others is the primary characteristic of Narcissism in the clinical sense. It could take a few conversations over a variety of occasions to identify this behavior alarm.
If you pay attention however, it’s not so much about the amount of ‘I’s’ and ‘Me’s’ in the conversation as it’s about their perception that the Universe revolves around them.
Examples: Lord Farquaad as the primary antagonist Shrek
‘My Way Or The Highway. Narcissists are perfectionists. They self-proclaim it even though. They believe that their plans and decisions are immune to error and that it is mandatory for everyone to follow their lead.
There is no one to speak up in the implementation of the plans, either. All that the egocentric leaders require for battle or in the political world or within their businesses is a group of people who follow their commands with no question asked.
They have no room for imagination, creativity and development, which makes it impossible to work with them.
Example: Cruella De’ Ville, 101 Dalmatians
Ceaseless Judgments And Fault-Finding
Perhaps this is the oddest of all characteristics among narcissists. They accuse other people for actions they are usually accused of doing.
For instance, it’s okay for them to get annoyed at you for having them wait a few minutes for a particular event, but if they do the same thing to you or anyone else for the same reason, it’s totally acceptable.
Narcissists know their flaws in character, but prefer to hide their flaws. So long as nobody discovers, they are able to keep their unnoticed crown of splendor.
But they make no effort to highlight similar flaws in other people and often magnify the flaws out of proportion.
Close Examples: Randall Boggs, Monsters Inc. and Monsters University (not a close example, but they are both a good fit. Do you know of an individual character that you think would be better? Please let us know.)
Incessant Need For Approval And Admiration
‘Mirror Mirror On The Wall; Who’s The Fairest Of Us All?’
Narcissists require constant praise and praise from others to boost their confidence rather than their ego.
No amount of admiration and praise will ever be enough. People who have experienced narcissistic abuse know how exhausting and tiresome it can become after a few months.
If narcissists aren’t receiving continuous praise and appreciation, they perform typically in psychotic manners to attract the attention they want; however , it’s not always an individual event.
Close Example: Queen Grimhilde, aka the Evil Queen, Snow White And The 7 Dwarves
Unchained ambition for success with a tense conscience is the hallmark of the narcissists. There is no way that anyone, not even one, is better than them in any field.
Thus, they could be observed stepping on others’ necks, without a trace of regret to achieve their goals.
Oftentimes, they are diagnosed with clinical competitiveness and thin moral fiber. Narcissists have to constantly fight to earn and keep the confidence of the people around them.
Close Example: Mr. Burns, Simpson’s
No Real Effort Or Respect For Relationships
To a narcissist’s mind relationships are just occasions to establish and establish the notion of superiority. The victims of narcissistic abuse throughout time have repeatedly stated in numerous interviews that they don’t make a real effort to any relationships whatsoever.
But, they’re expecting that they will. They’re mentally or emotionally inaccessible and will be the first to accuse you of being overly affluent or both, if you raise the relationship’s red flag.
However, they do help in the very simplest way of keeping individuals within their lives when they are convinced they need to move on to protect their health.
Close Example: Eustace, Courage the Cowardly Dog
Certified narcissists have their passive-aggressive arsenal of sugar-coated acids with satisfaction. Insane sarcasm, mocking compliments, silent treatment as well as deliberate delay, postponing things as a way to get their revenge on the person they are angry at are just some of the examples of.
An inability to engage in confronting problems directly is an indication of Narcissism. One could say that their brain isn’t designed to resolve the problem instead of punishing those who they believe to be responsible for the situation.’
Active aggressiveness can be appropriate in certain circumstances in life however it could be a serious threat to interpersonal relationships if it becomes a norm of behavior.
Close Example: Mandark, Dexter’s Laboratory
Guilt-tripping, goal-shifting and triangulation, love-bombing gaslighting, devaluing all of it. The narcissists are all equipped with it to offer.
They employ these techniques “knowingly” to further their goals, regardless of whether they are justified or not.
What can they get from manipulative obsession?
The ability to control everything, even the actions and thoughts of those in their vicinity.
A swollen ego, considering that everyone who is there at the end of the day, is designed to dance to their favorite tunes.
Get attention, power favors and privileges.
Refuse to accept their own responsibility for their actions.
Close Example: Sad Bollywood Moms
The joy of applauding the accomplishments of your family, friends and loved ones is a joy.
But, when you’re required to make a grand ovation of the same feat repeatedly each time, adding new information to the story of success is a definite sign of Narcissism.
Narcissists exaggerate their accomplishments and will go to any length to attract the public’s attention to them, even when they require newer information that might not be accurate. This is the reason they do it in complete confidence
An Example Closer: Nearly all coworkers competing for the promotio
Zero Tolerance For Criticism
People who suffer from Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) have a tendency to be very vulnerable to negative criticism. They see criticism as threatening and consequently, they must always remain vigilant against it.
There is no word for “constructive criticism” in their dictionary. And they tend to be offended quickly if someone differs regarding the subject matter.
There’s no right or wrong method to help someone suffering from NPD to comprehend and address the flaws that are obvious and flaws that could be detrimental to their social, personal and professional appearance.
Clinical Lack Of Empathy
Of all the positive things that people who suffer from NPD can contribute to their immediate surroundings there isn’t one thing that can be considered empathy.
Actually, it’s one of the red flags that can go further to cut off relationships that are beyond repair.
Narcissists do and say things that they are sure will cause harm to you, regardless of whether you are worthy of being the victim of their behavior.
They fuel their infractions by causing more harm because they believe that ultimately they’ll be granted forgiveness.
Psychologists and behaviorists, through time, have concluded through a variety of studies that clinical narcissists are lacking both affective and cognitive empathy.
They’re simply unaware of what other people think, feel and are influenced by what they do.
Near Example: Fred Flintstone, The Flintstones
It’s common for narcissists playing the victim. In some way, their actions are not their fault.
In reality, they attempt to attribute the root of their sexy behavior onto other people and are left angry, anxious and confused.
What is the reason these people do it? Narcissists have an overinflated self-esteem that requires to be protected in all circumstances.
The victim card to obtain approval from sympathisers, cause confusion over who’s responsible, or to prevent breaking ups, etc.
Effects Of Narcissistic Abuse
Narcissistic abuse is real and its negative effects are extremely damaging to the overall health of a victim. The most frequent effects of narcissistic abuse:
Loss of Self-esteem and Self-worth.
Self-responsibility as the cause of the abusive behavior.
Cognitive Problem with Memory – Short-term memory loss or insomnia, or the reverse of it mood fluctuations, depression, anxiety and abuse of substances.
Guilt and Loneliness.
Have You Been A Victim Of Narcissism?
Here’s Your Roadmap To Heal
Get rid of this unhealthy relationship and be proud of yourself for doing it.
It’s Not Your Responsibility – You’ve worked hard enough.
Talk to a therapist or someone you trust.
Concentrate on building your confidence and self-esteem.
Establish clear boundaries in any interpersonal relationships to stop narcissists from taking over your life.
Do You Know?As an individual characteristic, Narcissism could be classified into five distinct categories: Overt, Covert, Antagonistic, Communal and malignant.
Effects Of Narcissism On A Narcissist
There are a myriad of reasons why narcissists behave in the manner they do, and some might merit genuine empathy. But ultimately, just being self-centered in a clinical manner can have its own consequences.
The people who suffer from Narcissistic personality Disorder (NPD) aren’t aware of the sensation of inner peace and happiness.
They’re in constant struggle against themselves to demonstrate that they are worthy to be seen by the public. They make and fight to meet a superficially crafted quality that is far too difficult to achieve in reality.
A lack of empathy, combined by other behavioral red flags such as blame-shifting, gaslighting, victim mentality and so on. These behaviours are professional and socially resentful.
They exhaust themselves eventually and are subsequently unable to connect with others by broken relationships, stagnation in their careers, alcohol abuse (possible) and isolation.
We live in a harshly judgemental environment that is classified into strictly positive and strictly negative by thought patterns, behavior and actions.
Anything that doesn’t conform to the standards of social-media “positive” is slammed out, labeled and shamed.
The truth often may be not what’s apparent for the uninitiated. If you happen to encounter someone who displays passive aggression be cautious before identifying them as a narcissist.
In the same way the fact that person may have performed a certain act in a particular situation doesn’t mean they are attention-seeking or narcissists.
The consistency in these traits for a long time could be a sign of Narcissism.
If you think about it, there’s an incredibly small narcissist within every one of us. Be honest and thoughtful, did we not at one point or another perhaps show one, two, or even a couple of these characteristics no matter if the event was just a single instance?
Humans aren’t robots. Humans cannot be trained to be perfect and happy all the time. Therefore, before you reach for a pitchfork to label, mock and correct a narcissist’s obsessive-compulsive judgement or labelling, as well as the tendency to find faults are also signs of narcissism.
If you truly want to assist someone in overcoming an NPD issue, be direct and show them your boundaries. Make sure to be gentle. It doesn’t mean you have to become a psychopath or a narcissist.